Feb 10 2010
How To Improve Speaking Skills By Walt Decherd
How I Overcame the Fear of Public Speaking
How To Improve Speaking Skills By Walt Decherd By Julian Mather
The THUMB Program, which encourages students to adopt a culture of social responsibility has consumed my life for the past 18 months. I conceived it, I wrote it, I perform it, I market it. Still, I have trouble explaining it. It’s a little complex and as there are a number of ways to come at it I’m never sure where to start. Over time this will sort itself out but I don’t have time. You see this weekend I’m doing my first radio interview about it. Am I nervous? Yes. Worried? No. Why?
So you think you’re the only one with an attack of the jitters:
Every week I stand up before hundreds of people and perform. With the safety of a rehearsed script I’m comfortable. But I’m not used to speaking off the cuff, so to speak. This is the core of my attack of the jitters. So don’t think that having spent a lot of performing time automatically means you don’t feel the nerves. I know that if I don’t face up to this and knock these nerves on the head, next time it’ll just be worse. That’s the truth.
Part of my problem is that I’m not a naturally chatty person so I just get out of practise speaking. That may seem strange but it’s true. I communicate by written word so much that I have to be careful I don’t get too rusty on the art of conversation.
Being human is ok:
How will I attend to this. Firstly I don’t take myself too seriously. If I completely mess up in two days time the truth is my mistake is instantly forgotten. Why? Because I’m not important. There was a time I thought maybe I was but here’s the scary reality. As soon as the listener switches off or the audience member walks out of the theatre they are consumed with the really important things in their life: getting the kids to school on time, responding to phone messages, making sure they pick up cream on the way home. Conversely when I get home my wife will smile warmly and my kids will hug me. My small blip will not have affected anyone. So don’t be afraid. I’m not. Imagine what you would try if you weren’t afraid of failing.
My secret weapon against nerves:
This is one of my secret weapons. I know that there are some things I am good at. We all have strengths and weaknesses. By and large we play to these. But the reality is that I’m a beginner at well over 99% of things there are to do on planet earth and beyond. I have no shame in that. I’m not that confident at doing this interview. I’ll happily tell that on air. In fact I’ll play on it a little. Why? Not only will that engender a bit of empathy and rapport with the listeners – it’s my experience that audiences like honesty and candor – but the host may gently guide me through the experience. I’m guessing that I’ll come out the other end unharmed. If anything I’ll be strengthened by the experience and if there is a next time, it’ll be a little easier.
Another confidence building tip:
Audiences have an amazing amount of goodwill. They want you to succeed and be good. Why? Because they want to be entertained, even it it is mildly. It’s an escape for a few minutes where they don’t have to take responsibility for any actions. In effect the audience hands itself over to you. They want you to do well as it’s in their interest so don’t think you have to win an audience over. You don’t have to be funny. Just SMILE a lot and be honest.